Reflection: What Do I Get Out of This?

A few years ago, I had a Human Design reading that really landed.
The reader told me my path was about total fulfillment—about loving myself enough to choose what truly supports me.

He gave me a question to ask before committing to anything:
“What do I get out of this exchange?”

At the time, that question didn’t sit well with me.
It rubbed against everything I’d learned about generosity, service, and spirituality.
It felt… selfish.

So I ignored it.
Focused on other aspects of my chart that felt easier to embody.

But now—years later—I find myself returning to this very question.
And this time, it lands differently.

As a Manifesting Generator with Emotional Authority and a 4/6 profile, I’ve learned to slow down and wait for emotional clarity.
With an open Head, Ajna, Heart, and Root, I’ve taken on so much pressure to prove, to know, to keep up.

Especially through my open Heart—I’ve merged with others, absorbed their needs, tried to help, fix, hold.
But I’ve realized: I can’t keep doing that and stay whole.

So I’m asking the question again—
Not from ego, but from self-respect:
What do I receive from this?
Does this nourish me too?

It turns out, this question isn’t selfish.
It’s a form of self-trust.
And it’s become my compass.

Curious—has Human Design ever shown you something you resisted at first, but later came to embrace?

**Photo: Hopi Birthing Cave - Sedona, AZ